Emotional Wellbeing ~ Our perceptions are our own realityDecember 21, 2009
Ok I’ve been thinking about these ideas for a while and they never seem to form into concrete thoughts enough to make sense to me. Its been driving me crazy trying to think of ways to put the basic ideas into words so I can gain a wider perspective but I’ve tried here, but I still feel like Im at square one! I dont know, I may write about these ideas at a later date but for now, I have written my basic thoughts on changing our perceptions to control our grief emotions, and even if some points dont necessarily seem to connect, its probably because I havent written them out very well. Im posting my ideas anyway in case anyone wants to add their own thoughts or ideas, I welcome all perspectives.
Sometimes we get tired of feeling our emotions. We endure them, we suffer them and on the odd occasion we might find them comforting for a moment (what we find familiar feels safe to us, even if its negative). It’s especially hard when we’re dealing with the grief process. We deal with it in many different ways for many different reasons – loss of a loved one, unable to be with a loved one, loss of a job, loss of a process… or just, loss.
And so what do we do when we are tired of dealing with our emotions? Do we even acknowledge that we’re tired of it : “Ok this sucks, I feel like total crap but I have just had enough. I am totally sick of feeling like this”.
Well in previous posts I wrote about our thinking patterns and how we might develop them, and how emotional memory can play a part in how our emotions manifest throughout our lives. And to expand on that a little bit more (again!), I’ve also been thinking about how easy it is for us to make snap decisions.
Like when we’re sick of something, lets say you’re folding laundry and placing folded clothes on the couch, while watching a riveting documentary on TV.
Every time you complete a pile, the family dog jumps up and topples the clothes off the couch. The first time, you put the clothes back and think nothing of it, you’re totally absorbed in your TV show. The second time you put the clothes back even though you felt slightly annoyed but still, the good part is coming up and you’re distracted with the documentary. You don’t want to miss this part. The third time it happens, you are more than annoyed and even though the documentary is nearly over you’re about to flick the dogs ears. You even tell him to behave or beware because you don’t want to miss the end.